Thursday, August 13, 2009

When personal inadequacies become someone else's problem

Day in day out we see different interpretations of the same incidence producing different perspectives because of the observers' personal experiences.

Not right.
Not wrong.
Just different.

However, many of these interpretations become a problem - usually for other people - because of the observer's insecurity and bias.

The real question is why make your own shortcomings someone else's problem?

The answer is awareness, acknowledgment, acceptance - or the lack of it.

Many a times, the person is not even aware that he/she has made it someone else's problem.
And sometimes, eventhough he/she is aware of it, refuses to acknowledge that it is a problem.
And worse, hard headed stubbornness prevents one from accepting that he/she is the problem.
And what follows in amendment to advance totally is dust to the wind!

Many is blinded by arrogance and numbed by insecurity to see all this.

And the lowest hanging fruit or easiest way is to blame it on others.
It immediately no longer is their problem.

In the hierachical world, whether corporations or community, this has become a disease.
Sometimes it even brings an incentive like paying millions to CEOs who cannot perform to leave.
That does not only bewilders me but also bother me like hell.

However, it remains the easiest way to transfer one's shortcoming to another and make it their problem.

What these people does not understand is that the world is getting smarter, people are having more choices, and they have the opportunity to not choose them anymore.

So wake up you insecure pitiful people.

Learn not to blame.
Learn to embrace.
Learn to appreciate.
Learn to be humble and in so doing become great!


ds2201 said...

Seems like you're bothered a lot, haha.. Chill, man! :) It's just so much like you, impatient about stupidity. Am I right? Haha.. But I do agree with you. I am often annoyed by people's incompetency too. If they want to learn (providing that they at least know something), it is still okay. But sometimes they are just incorrigible and can't be helped.

So, well, don't think about it too much! Save your anger! They're not worth it :)

Daniel Ng said...

Don, anger has nothing to do with it although it most times, in its intensity, masked out other feelings.

The real feeling here is disappointment.

Disappointment about how easily people can pass the baton of blame to others and to top it off, because of their own inadequacies.

Lis Wong / 黃碧琴 / 황벽금 said...

Many times, people don't realise that action speaks louder than words.

They blame and complain. But they've forgotten to look within and reflect upon what they could do better, or help to improve the situation.